2025 was, without a doubt, the most expensive year of my life. And I’m not just talking about the bank account—though between the flights to Singapore and the tuition for a law degree I didn’t finish, my wallet definitely felt it.
I’m talking about the emotional cost. The cost of finally learning the lessons I’ve been trying to dodge for years. If 2024 was about surviving, 2025 was about the messy, beautiful, and expensive process of becoming who I actually want to be.
Here is what my 2025 “roller coaster” looked like.
1. The Law School Detour (and the Power of Quitting)
I started the year thinking I needed a “title” to be successful. I enrolled in law school, bought the books, and prepared for the grind. Two months in, I realized I was chasing a dream that wasn’t mine. Dropping out wasn’t a failure; it was the first time I made a massive decision based on my gut rather than “prestige.” I’m learning not to overthink—if it’s not a “hell yes,” it’s a “no.”
2. Traveling to Find My People
I spent a lot of time on the road this year—Indonesia, Thailand, Singapore. But the best part of the travel wasn’t the scenery; it was the realization that I’ve finally found my people. For the first time, I don’t feel like I’m auditioning for a place in someone’s life. I found a best friend who actually gets it.
3. The Hard Lessons on Love (Again)
I’ve written about love before, but this year taught me the “hard way” version. I learned that it is okay to let people go. I used to think holding on was a sign of strength, but letting go is the real flex. I’ve realized that what belongs to me will always find its way to me—I don’t have to beg, chase, or compromise my peace of mind to keep it.
4. The 12-Hour Drive and the Mountains
There were moments of pure adrenaline. I drove for 12 hours non-stop—just me and the road. I hiked the trails in Nueva Ecija, gasping for air and feeling alive. I even joined marathons, pushing my body to see where it would break. Somewhere between the finish lines and the summits, I realized I’m much stronger than the version of me that stayed in toxic relationships.
5. Becoming an Honest Food Critic
In the middle of all the heavy life realizations, I started an Instagram account just for food. No “strategy,” no “personal branding”—just me being an honest food critic. It’s been my little sanctuary of joy.
6. The “Selfish” Resolution for 2026
This is the hardest part to write. For years, I’ve been the pillar for my family. I’ve lent money that turned into “gifts.” I’ve supported people at the expense of my own growth.
I have a dream. I want to buy a house. I want to live alone. And I’ve realized I can’t grow if I’m carrying everyone else on my back. It feels selfish, and I know people might judge me for it, but for 2026, I am choosing my own peace of mind. I’m stopping the financial support so I can finally support my own dreams.
The Takeaway? 2025 was a year of extreme highs and expensive lows. It was the year I realized that I don’t want to be a lawyer, a martyr for my family, or a second choice in a relationship.
I’m entering 2026 with a lighter suitcase and a clearer head. I’m living alone, I’m eating good food, and for the first time in my life, I’m putting Dylan first.
